Joyce Carol Oates’ “My Sister, My Love”

September 20, 2008 at 10:38 pm (New Reads)

Joyce Carol Oates is one of my very favorite authors.  Everyone knows how prolific she is…but she’s also so magnetic and magical in her writing skills that I so often feel pulled into the story and characters at a pace nearly too quickly to break away from!  This new book of hers literally made my head spin!!  I felt the anxiety and out-of-body slipping away that Skyler and his sister and mother were warring against.  Ms. Oates is simply amazing in her characterizations. 

“My Sister, My Love,”  will make you feel uncomfortable, like a proverbial “fly on the wall” at the Rampike home, and deeply taken in by this dysfunctional family.  Here is Oates’ loosely disguised story/take on the JonBenet Ramsey case.  It’s a “fill in the blanks” sort of book that leaves us with Oates, theory of what may have happened to JonBenet.  It’s a chilling and captivating book.

I cannot put it down!!  I’d love to hear what you think of it. 

Your Bookish Dame…..

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The 19th Wife

August 23, 2008 at 12:15 am (New Reads)

I give you this very large picture of the book cover to show you how impressive this book is upon first observation.  You just can’t tell a book by its cover…  I think David Ebershoff is a fine writer, and one whose style I find lulling and seductive.  I was drawn into this novel about Mormanism and the foundational doctrine of polygomy wanting to know more…and, so became just like the crowds during the mid 1800’s who were mob-like in their thirsty desires for all the “juicy” details.  Perhaps this is one of Ebershoff’s underlying warnings to us.  All in all, I found the book just an interesting, but not a new and wonderful twist on a theme.  The historic details were the most engaging, but were somewhat flat…the current-day storyline that parralled the historic was light-weight and not very engaging.  I wasn’t very attached to the contemporary characters…especially finding Johnny a boy I couldn’t warm up to at all!  Would I buy this book knowing all of this???   I probably would just because of the historical details on Mormanism from a woman’s perspective.  I think Mr. Eberschoff would have had a better book if he’d just enhanced that historical detail with a ficticious “fill in!”  Wait ’til this one comes out in paperback!

Your, Bookish Dame

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Walking on Eggshells or Trying Not to Be Motherly

August 7, 2008 at 6:39 am (New Reads)

I’ve been chewed up, mashed down and broken-hearted in the last year by my adult children, and what a shock it’s been!  My children and I have always been close, very loving and have communicated so well.  I’ve given them my heart and my best, tryed to support and love them unconditionally….and now I’m just devastated about the new responses I’m getting from the two I would never have expected it from!

Thus, my grasp for help in a book, of course.  I saw, “Walking on Eggshells, Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents,” by Jane Isay at my local Borders and dove for it.  Judith Viorst (of childrens’ book fame) has a quote on the front of the book, “Read it and learn!”

Having just started the book, I have not too much to share other than that adult children don’t want moms and dads to tell them the SLIGHTEST things to do, in any way at all, ever!  It enrages them!  Really enrages them!  This is news to me…however, I have seen the purple monsters rise from my beloved adult children this year and I can testify that it’s a real issue.

Since I’ve already spent days in bed in sobbing grief over lost love and heartbreak from the new treatment and disrespect they have shown me for reasons I couldn’t figure out  (I was just being the same ol’ mom….now I know that’s absolutely not allowed anymore!),  I’m now ready for the boot camp of revising my relationships, I suppose.  It won’t be easy…it’s really like “walking on eggshells”…even I called it that before I saw the book.  And, I think the tough thing is learning how to negotiate the pitfalls and landmines without losing who we are as women and mothers.

I’m still a little heartbroken at the changes I will have to make.  No longer being the mom of my younger children…now Mother of my adult children…not as playful now, but more serious and grown up.  I always loved the light-heartedness and playfulness of childhood and young adulthood with them…I’m going to miss that….

If any of you are experiencing this, too.  I’d love to hear from you, whether you’re a mom or a new mother, or a son trying to balance a new wife and new child and your mom.  It’s a strange new world for everyone!

Your, Bookish Dame

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Kindle Katches and New Books

June 12, 2008 at 7:59 pm (Bookstore Finds, Kindle Entries, New Reads)

New books downloaded from Kindle:

Skeletons at the Feast“  by Chris Bohjalian.    WWII character perspectives, with new and powerful insights that will live in my mind forever.

The Big Girls“  by Susanna Moore.  A woman psychiatrist and her female patient who are both suffering from loss and guilt….  Moore is an awesome writer.

 New books from Borders trip:

Free Food for Millionaires“  by Min Jin Lee.  This one has been on every bestseller’s list across the country!  An Ivy League girl with a Korean family background, who has a secret obsession for reading the Bible, loves expensive clothes and has a hunky white boyfriend…etc..?  I’ve got to read this one!!!

Open Me“  by Sunshne O’Donnell.  Seems like I’ve been waiting forever to hear a story like this one.  A young girls lifelong secret training in the ancient, forbidden art of being a funeral mourner…an illegal profession, but one which has been passed down mother to daughter for thousands of years.

Human Traces“  by Sebastian Faulks.  Two young boys with an interest in science and psychiatry grow up in France and England, then come together to found a clinic in Austria.  A female patient whom they each want to treat in different ways comes between them. 

All of these are fabulous reads!  I took the time today to write reviews of each of them, but the entries got erased somehow.  I can just tell you that it’s too demoralizing to write a third time!! :[    But, suffice it to say that the above books are varied, but wonderful.  Please go to Amazon.com to see the covers and read reviews for yourselves.

I’m having alot of trouble putting “Skeletons,” and “Human Traces” down at the moment.  I’m afraid to start “Open Me,” more than an intro. first chapter, because I know I’ll be up all night reading it!  And, I can’t wait to start “Free Food…”

Please leave comments and your blog addys so I can visit you and see what you’re reading, too.

Your Bookish Dame,    Deb

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Amazon’s Kindle Means I’ve Been To The Bookstore…ish

May 12, 2008 at 9:34 am (Bookstore Finds, Kindle Entries)

I’ve been down and out this past 3 weeks, shifted from ER to hospital to home with a horrible bout of stuff worse than I want to talk about…and we don’t need to go there! 

On the bright side, this left me some small space of time for foraging with STELLA my Kindle “bedfella” in the Amazon bookstore.  I have to say that “Stella” was a priceless sidekick in my hospital bed.  She was lightweight and easy to maneuver with one hand while the other was stuck with IVs and such!  I always knew where she was and could easily reach for her or sleep with her!  She took me on trips to the “bookstore,” to archives, to browsings, to samples of books I might want to read, to a couple of new mystery magazines I subscribed to for fun, and to searching the stacks for books and reviews.  I never felt alone or bored!  I really hadn’t thought about my Kindle as a hospital companion….but “Stella” was the best I could have hoped for!  One book would have been too bulky for me with my issues, I would have had trouble with it, and it would have bored me in the amount of time I was there.   I can’t say enough about my “Stella!”

Here are some of my new purchases found while book-skimming with Stella:

  • The Madonnas of Leningrad      by  Debra Dean
  • North and South                        by  Elizabeth Cleghorn Gaskell
  • The Death Dealer                       by  Heather Graham
  • Down River                                by  John Hart
  • The Big Girls                              by  Susanna Moore
  • Luncheon of the Boating Party   by  Susan Vreeland
  • Ellery Queen’s Mystery Magazine!   Subscription
  • Alfred Hitchcock’s Mystery Magazine!  Subscription

Some of the books I was able to sample (this consists of at least a chapter of each book or more…) and to archive in Stella are:

  • The Rain Before It Falls              by  Jonathan Coe
  • Mistress of the Revolution        by  Catherine Delors
  • The Luxe                                   by  Anna Godbersen
  • The Jewel Trader of Pergu          by  Jeffery Hantover
  • The Third Angel                         by  Alice Hoffman
  • Child 44                                     by Tom Rob Smith
  • The Sociopath Next Door           by  Martha Stout PHd

All in all…for one who was otherwise miserable with medicine and no food…I had alot of fun in the hospital with my bookstore visits and reading.   I read several of the short mystery stories and just loved them.  They actually reminded me of when I was a teenager and we couldn’t watch tv, and had to read…my brothers and I collected comic books or mystery-type magazines and spent hours with them…losing track of time and place just like with books.  I’m delighted to now have these mystery stories on my Kindle.

All of the books I sampled are now on my wishlist.  It’s amazing how you can really get into a book when you actually have time to read a chapter of it. At the book shops I find I’m overwhelmed by the flashy covers and glamour of the whole thing.  And, I’m so bookish, of course,  I want to buy everything without even testing it!  I can’t test it!  I’m bedazzled and in a trance!   Whereas with my “Stella,” I have a small distance that actually gives me what I really, truly want which is the choice of books I would love if I read them. 

In the old days they used to repeat relentlessly, “You can’t tell a book by it’s cover!”   (With the proverbial depth of hidden meanings, naturally)  But, in truth, it used to plague me as a child while I devoutly worked my way through libraries like a nun entranced.  I was choosing several books based on their covers!!  A heresy!!  I tried to hide the fact like the heretic I was with every mumbled excuse I could muster…”Well, it has a great story…don’t look at the cover…you can just..we’ll take that cover off…it’s just…”   In truth, we are all bedazzled by the artwork, the covers speak to us, the guilding on beautiful leather makes our bookish hearts beat faster, the book itself is gorgeous and we love it for its looks.

With my Stella/Kindle I’m taken back to a place where I’m able to choose because of the context.  And, I’m finding my reading experience is becoming enriched by this.  I’m finding that I’m reading faster with my Kindle.  I can’t even believe I’m saying this because I continue to love my books and will always continue to buy them, though I know I will be able to pay a third the price if I just use my Kindle.

With all that said.  Reading is wonderful.  It’s a joy to have our books in whatever form.  Isn’t it amazing that God chose to leave us with a special gift throughout the Ages…His Word.  The Bible.  A Book.

Don’t leave home without one.  Hugs,  The Bookish Dame

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Booklist to Check Out!

March 27, 2008 at 2:27 am (Book Lists)

I hope you’ll enjoy taking this list and reading through it for yourself.  Just another way of seeing where we are in terms of somebody’s estimation of the best books written, I suppose.  But I liked seeing the list and testing my reading against it.

Here’s a list of 100 books.  I got this from a friend’s blog.  Just bold the books you’ve already read, (movies don’t count!) italic those you want to read, and leave the ones you don’t care about in plain text.  Here are my entries:

1.The Da Vinci Code (Dan Brown)

2. Pride and Prejudice (Jane Austen)

3. To Kill A Mockingbird (Harper Lee)
4. Gone With The Wind (Margaret Mitchell)
5. The Lord of the Rings: Return of the King (Tolkien)
6. The Lord of the Rings: Fellowship of the Ring (Tolkien)
7. The Lord of the Rings: Two Towers (Tolkien)
8. Anne of Green Gables (L.M. Montgomery)
9. Outlander (Diana Gabaldon)
10. A Fine Balance (Rohinton Mistry)
11. Harry Potter and the Goblet of Fire (Rowling)
12. Angels and Demons (Dan Brown)
13. Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (Rowling)
14. A Prayer for Owen Meany (John Irving)
15. Memoirs of a Geisha (Arthur Golden)
16. Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone (Rowling)
17. Fall on Your Knees (Ann-Marie MacDonald)
18. The Stand (Stephen King)
19. Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban (Rowling)
20. Jane Eyre (Charlotte Bronte)
21. The Hobbit (Tolkien)
22. The Catcher in the Rye (J.D. Salinger)
23. Little Women (Louisa May Alcott)
24. The Lovely Bones (Alice Sebold)
25 . Life of Pi (Yann Martel)
26. The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy (Douglas Adams)
27. Wuthering Heights (Emily Bronte)
28. The Lion, The Witch and the Wardrobe (C. S. Lewis)
29. East of Eden (John Steinbeck)
30. Tuesdays with Morrie (Mitch Albom)
31. Dune (Frank Herbert)
32. The Notebook (Nicholas Sparks)
33. Atlas Shrugged (Ayn Rand)
34. 1984 (Orwell)
35. The Mists of Avalon (Marion Zimmer Bradley)
36. The Pillars of the Earth (Ken Follett)
37. The Power of One (Bryce Courtenay)
38. I Know This Much is True (Wally Lamb)
39. The Red Tent (Anita Diamant)
40. The Alchemist (Paulo Coelho)
41. The Clan of the Cave Bear (Jean M. Auel)
42. The Kite Runner (Khaled Hosseini)
43. Confessions of a Shopaholic (Sophie Kinsella)
44. The Five People You Meet In Heaven (Mitch Albom)
45. Bible
46. Anna Karenina (Tolstoy)
47. The Count of Monte Cristo (Alexandre Dumas)
48. Angela’s Ashes (Frank McCourt)
49. The Grapes of Wrath (John Steinbeck)
50. She’s Come Undone (Wally Lamb)
51. The Poisonwood Bible (Barbara Kingsolver)
52. A Tale of Two Cities (Dickens)
53. Ender’s Game (Orson Scott Card)
54. Great Expectations (Dickens)
55. The Great Gatsby (Fitzgerald)
56. The Stone Angel (Margaret Laurence)
57. Harry Potter and the Chamber of Secrets (Rowling)
58. The Thorn Birds (Colleen McCullough)
59. The Handmaid’s Tale (Margaret Atwood)
60. The Time Traveller’s Wife (Audrey Niffenegger)
61. Crime and Punishment (Fyodor Dostoyevsky)
62. The Fountainhead (Ayn Rand)
63. War and Peace (Tolstoy)  Currently reading this!
64. Interview With The Vampire (Anne Rice)
65. Fifth Business (Robertson Davis)
66. One Hundred Years Of Solitude (Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
67. The Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants (Ann Brashares)
68. Catch-22 (Joseph Heller)
69. Les Miserables (Hugo)
70. The Little Prince (Antoine de Saint-Exupery)
71. Bridget Jones’ Diary (Fielding)
72. Love in the Time of Cholera (Marquez)
73. Shogun (James Clavell)
74. The English Patient (Michael Ondaatje)
75. The Secret Garden (Frances Hodgson Burnett)
76. The Summer Tree (Guy Gavriel Kay)
77. A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (Betty Smith)
78. The World According To Garp (John Irving)
79. The Diviners (Margaret Laurence)
80. Charlotte’s Web (E.B. White)
81. Not Wanted On The Voyage (Timothy Findley)
82. Of Mice And Men (Steinbeck)
83. Rebecca (Daphne DuMaurier)
84. Wizard’s First Rule (Terry Goodkind)
85. Emma (Jane Austen)
86. Watership Down(Richard Adams)
87. Brave New World (Aldous Huxley)
88. The Stone Diaries (Carol Shields)
89. Blindness (Jose Saramago)
90. Kane and Abel (Jeffrey Archer)
91. In The Skin Of A Lion (Ondaatje)
92. Lord of the Flies (Golding)
93. The Good Earth (Pearl S. Buck)
94. The Secret Life of Bees (Sue Monk Kidd)
95. The Bourne Identity (Robert Ludlum)
96. The Outsiders (S.E. Hinton)
97. White Oleander (Janet Fitch)
99. The Celestine Prophecy (James Redfield)
100. Ulysses (James Joyce)

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Silk

March 17, 2008 at 8:38 pm (New Reads)

I’ve just finished the book, “Silk,” by Alessandro Baricco, and can’t say enough about it.  Don’t know why I put this read off such a long time.  I’ve had it in my library since 1998!!  It’s a small book, so compact.  Every word is meant like a haiku piece, I guess.  It’s a terribly beautiful story about love between a frenchman and a Japanese concubine.  Without spoiling the story, it’s enough to say that you will never forget their love story, and it will haunt you for days after you put the little book down….which will only take you about an hour to read….

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New Favorite Book 3/2008

March 12, 2008 at 1:32 am (New Reads)

book-monsters-of-templeton-by-lauren-groff-pic.jpgI’m just loving this book by first-time author, Lauren Groff.  It’s such a steady clip of a read…she’s really good!  Please go to: http://monsters.everywomansvoice.com/book.php?  to read a great interview with Lauren, and some reviews. 

So far, this is my favorite new book of 2008….

Yours,

The Bookish Dame

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10 Notable Books of 2007 & Best 10 of 2006

March 5, 2008 at 7:51 am (Book Lists)

It’s interesting to note these lists I found recently on The New York Times.  I think I really prefer 2006 to 2007.   I’m finding I can hardly pronounce the author’s names these days!

In 2008, I worry that we’re getting too warlike, political and dark in our books.  I can’t seem to find much that’s reviewed or critiqued that doesn’t have something to say about Afghanistan, Iraq or Iran…subterfuge, political crisis or the like.  I’m discouraged enough about the loss of America as I knew it even 25 years ago….it’s really disheartening to be told we have to read all about who we’ve become or are becoming as the World takes us over.  I just want a good, old-fashioned but well-written complicated relationship story…do you?

At any rate, here are the lists promised.  You decide what you like:  I’ve bolded the ones I’ve read or have to be read in my stacks! :]

Top 10 Notable Books of 2007: Fiction

1)  The Abstinence Teacher by Tom Perrotta.  A sex-ed teacher faces off against a church bent on ridding her town of “moral decay.”

2)  After Dark by Haruki Murakami…translated.  A tale of two sisters, one awake all night, one asleep for months.

3)  The Bad Girl by Mario Vargas Llosa…translated.  This suspenseful novel transforms “Madame Bovary” into a vibrant exploration of the urban mores of the 1960’s, ’70s and ’80s.

4)  Bearing The Body by Ehud Havazelet.  In this daring, first novel, a man travels to CA after his brother is killed in what may have been a drug transaction.

5)  The Beautiful Things That Heaven Bears by Dinaw Mengestu.  A first novel about an Ethiopian exile in Washington, DC, evokes loss, hope, meomory and the solace of friendship.

6)  Bridge Of Sighs by Richard Russo. …a small town in NY riven by class differences and racial hatred.

7)  The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao by Junot Diaz.  A nerdy Dominican American yearns to write and fall in love.

8)  Call Me By Your Name by Andre’ Aciman. …novel of love, desire, time and memory describes a passionate affair between two young men in Italy.

9)  Cheating At Canasta by William Trevor.  Trevor’s dark, worldly short stories linger in the mind long after they’re finished.

10) The Collected Poems, 1956-1998. by Zbigniew Herbert…translated.  Herbert’s poetry echoes the quiet insubordination of his public life.

The 10 Best Books of 2006:  Fiction & Non-Fiction

1)  Absurdistan by Gary Shteyngart.  …scruffy, exuberant..equal parts Gogol and Borat…immodest on every level…it’s long, crude, manic and has cheap vodka on it’s breath.  It also happens to be smart, funny and…extraordinarily rich and moving.

2)  The Collected Stories of Amy Hempel.  ….she has demonstrated unusual discipline in assembling her urbane, pointillistic and wickedly funny short stories.  Her compact fictions, populated by smart, neurotic, somewhat damaged narrators, speak grandly to the longings and insecurities in all of us, and in a voice that is bracingly direct and sneakily profound.

3)  The Emperor’s Children by Claire Messud.  This superbly intelligent, keenly observed comedy of manners, set amid the glitter of cultural Manhattan in 2001, also looks unsparingly, though sympathetically, at a privileged class unwittingly poised in its insularity, for the catastrophe of 9/ll.

4)  The Lay of the Land by Richard Ford.  ..3rd installment..serial epic of Frank Bascombe-flawed husband, fuddled dad, writer turned real estate agent and voluble first-person narrator.

5)  Special Topics In Calamity Physics by Marisha Pessl.  The antic ghost of Nabokov hovers over this buoyantly literate first novel, a murder mystery narrated by a teenager enamored of her own precocity but also in thrall to her father, an enigmatic itinerant professor, and to the charismatic female teacher whose death is announced on the first page.

Non-Fiction:

1)  Falling Through The Earth, A Memoir by Danielle Trussoni.  This intense,…searing memoir revisits the author’s rough-and-tumble Wisconsin girlhood, spent on the wrong side of the tracks in the company of her father, a Vietnam vet who began his tour as “a cocksure country boy” but returned “wild and haunted,” unfit for family life and driven to extremes of philandering, alcoholis and violence.

2)  The Looming Tower, Al-Queda and the Road to 9/11 by Lawrence Wright.  In the fullest account yet of the events that led to the fateful day, Wright unmasks the secret world of Osama bin Laden and his collaborators and also chronicles the efforts of a handful of American intelligence officers alert to the approaching danger but frustrated, time and agin, in their efforts to stop it.

3)  Mayflower, A Story of Courage, Community and War by Nathaniel Philbrick.  This absorbing history of the Plymouth Colony..impressively recreates the the pilgrim’s dismal 1620 voyage, bringing to life passengers and crew, and the events of the settlement…

4)  The Omnivore’s Dilemma, A Natural History of Four Meals by Michael Pollan.  “When you can eat just about anything natuare has to offer, deciding what you should eat will inevitably stir anxiety,” Pollan writes in this supple and probing book.

5)  The Places In Between by Rory Stewart.  “You are the first tourist in Afghanistan,” Stewart, a young Scotsman, was warned by an Afghan official before commencing the journey recounted in this splendid book.  “It is mid-winter-there are three meters of snow on the high passes, there are wolves, and this is a war.  You will die, I can guarantee.”  Stewart, thankfully, did not die….

 I have to tell you I particuarly loved “Special Topics In Calamity Physics.”  It was priceless!!  I couldn’t put it down.   At least try that one for an enjoyable read…

Bye,  The Bookish Dame

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Jessica Names My Kindle!

February 19, 2008 at 2:40 am (Kindle Entries)

Wouldn’t you know that my DD rushed to the rescue and named my precious Kindle.  Her name choice and mine…to my utter delight is:  Stella. 

So appropriate since Jess says it’s a derivative of “Storyteller…a wise new invention”  She likens the Kindle to ancient medieval  troubadors who travelled the roadways, sitting by firesides, singing and telling news and legends through stories and poems.  Since the Kindle is actually our new Century’s form of the ancient storyteller…I loved this analogy.

 ”Stella” she is!    And, Jessica gets a free book of her choice, as well as a gift bag of surprises!

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